Next Weekend Check-up Coaching Session - Join Other Couples for a Free Weekend Retreat Click to Apply

You’re not alone

This may be an unfamilar territory, but we’re here to guide you.

We’ve all experienced it; miscommunication, conflict, incompatibility, anger, separation, and ultimately divorce in marriages.

Why not check-up on your marriage? We go to the doctor and the dentist for regular check-ups, but for some reason we don’t check-up on our marriage, sometimes until its too late to make changes!

We want to offer a way to break the cycle by offering a retreat center, a place of refuge for couples to come and be renewed in their marriage.

How it works?

Step 01


Schedule a facetime or zoom free coaching session – we want to hear from both of you
Step 02


We will guide you based on what we hear.
Step 03


Take the online Marriage Check-Up - a detailed analysis of you current situation.
Step 04


Schedule a weekend at the Marriage Refuge (typically Friday night through Sunday at 11am) to work on your Check-up report.
Step 05


The Marriage Refuge is Free. Costs are covered by donations and we ask that you prayerfully consider supporting the ministry as you participate. Consider paying it forward for another future couple.
Step 06

Lets Talk

Step 07

The Refuge

In 2 days at the retreat, walk away with...

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Rachel and Ross may not have struggled had they attended our couples’ weekend.

  • Practical & Simple Marriage Tools

    During our time together, we will provide you with practical exercises and tools to guide both of you into a thriving marriage.

  • A Healthy Plan

    You will leave with a practical guide to visualize and implement what a healthy marriage looks like. You will start living it out!

  • Check ins & Accountabilty

    We want to guide you with accountability check-ins, to see how you are doing and provide adjustments as needed.


Rachel and Ross may not have struggled had they attended our couples’ weekend.>


Because you can reduce your risk of divorce by 30%.

High Value
Preparing for marriage is important, so important that it has been found to reduce the rate of divorce by 30%. Premarital coaching and education are investments in your future, investments you shouldn’t risk to pass up. This is marriage after all!

Easy Process
Using a personalized assessment at the beginning of the premarital journey we will provide you with a clear view of your relationship. This tailored approach will allow you to get to know yourselves on a deeper level.

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Meet Your Team

Married 47 years while coaching 100’s couples

Mark and Karen Stevens served in the local church as leaders of various ministries for over 40 years. Karen was the pastor of the women’s ministry at the Rock Church – teaching and coaching thousands of women over the past 18 years.

Mark was the Executive Pastor of Rock Church and has an MBA in business management from Pepperdine University and has also run various private and public companies.


What is a Marriage Intensive

The Marriage Refuge is partnering with Jeff and Robin Reinke in offering marriage intensives for couples in severe crisis situations—for instance, those on the brink of divorce—as well as couples who require in-depth counseling or may simply find themselves stuck and needing help progressing in their relationship. At The Refuge Marriage Intensive, Jeff and Robin lead focused sessions in a three-couple, group-therapy format over a three half-day and three-night period. This safe environment helps break down communication obstacles, uncover hidden barriers, and move participants quickly to core issues.

More about Jeff and Robin Reinke

Next Intensive Dates: 2024: Jan. 11-14, March 14-17, June 6-9, Oct 3-6
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Robin Reinke, MFT

Robin Reinke is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Originally from the Northeast, Robin has over 25 years of experience in individual, marriage and family counseling. Robin’s specialties include women’s issues, grief and loss, trauma, PTSD, anxiety and couples issues. She is also trained in EFT and EMDR. Robin and her husband, Jeff, have resided in Southern California for 25 years and have two children in college.

Jeff Reinke

Jeff is the founder of The Relationship Resource, a nonprofit organization established to heal and strengthen marriages in the San Diego Area. He is a Certified Restoration Therapy Counselor and has been the Director of the Pastoral Counseling Ministry at North Coast Calvary Chapel for the past 20 years.

Previous to working at NCCC, he was the Director for the Fellowship of Christian Athletes in San Diego County and a schoolteacher and basketball coach for 9 years at Santa Fe Christian High and spiritual life director.

He is the author of a series of psycho-spiritual educational workbooks. Menskills, Womenskills and Marriageskills .

Jeff has been married to his wife Robin for 24 years and has two children; Joy who is 21 years old and John Luke who is 19 years old. They attend Azusa Pacific University.

Jeff was a two-sport scholar athlete and graduate from USC. He received a BS in Political Science and has two post graduate degrees- MA in Education and a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy.

Begin your journey to happy & healthy marriage!

Whether that’s to ask any questions, schedule a call, or book a spot at the refuge.

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